When discussing the many issues
that media and society affect, we tend to run into some people with common concerns. As well as the ways we remedy them. I found one such person, and we mutually inspired each other.
Today, I would like
to introduce you to a new set of eyes; A story that may spark interest in the battles that people fight constantly. This story should untangle and help you
to creatively think about your own roads to a peaceful life, I know this
because I am personally involved.
Three years ago, I
transferred colleges with a new mindset and outlook on my future. Although, I
was not as "confident" as everyone else, and had several fears and insecurities. I struggled to find my place at my new school, and there were times I
wanted to give up- but I wouldn't. I switched my major several times, adjusted
my schedule many times, and tried including different hobbies and
exercises into my days just to feel more comfortable. All of these
things can definitely help find a more comfortable place, and move things along easier
but it doesn’t completely solve any problems.
Although, it took a
few years after high school to figure myself out, dabbling in a class-or two;
when I made the decision to transfer I was ready to be a full time student and
apply myself 100%. Three years into transferring, I am in my last
semester of junior year as a communications major anxious to graduate and
see what more the world has to offer.
With dreams of owning my own salon and spa, I transferred
into my new school as a business management major. I was getting by until I had
to take economics and accounting. This is when the idea turned into a nightmare. I thought I was on another
planet, reading and studying a different language and my professors were
aliens. This is where I met my good friend, Nicole. I struggled on tests, where Nicole seemed to ace every exam.
I quickly learned Nicole seemed to have it all together because she was
an accounting major, this was her thing! I was upset that I wasn’t
doing well, but was determined and did not want to give up- After all, owning a
salon and spa does not require being an accounting or economics genius.
Nicole, I and another classmate started to meet up to study,
Nicole was helpful but the whole finance topic was clearly not for me. There
was definitely a greater reason for me being in class with Nicole though. We became good
friends, and ended up learning a lot about each other. Turns out, Nicole and I
both experienced several battles as a child that tied our friendship together differently.
Nicole became one of the first people I expressed many of my
own personal hurts to. These were hurts that I experienced, that I found easy
to discuss until I started to learn that my feelings were not directly
connected to my words. As our relationship changed I started to view Nicole in a
different light, I saw her as a confident, bold, and powerful woman. She appeared to be an open book about many of the negative issues she had to face
in her life, she never let it weigh her down!
Nicole’s attitude made me crave the same mindset-
This is when my mind started to boil.
College is definitely one of those crucial growth periods for many of us. I took several courses, some that were boring, some that interested me throughout the major changes and schedule switches. There were also several classes that moved me. All of this helped me to recognize all the areas of self, I needed to work on.
With so much negative in the world. Why battle it, why find issues and conflicts, why waste the energy and time? I battled this for a long time. I have also had several discussions with Nicole about the battles I faced as well as the ones she faced. While there are moments in everyone's lives that you need to vent, or need the support from someone who completely understands you and your experiences this does not always help, it also as we all know does not take away the bad.
SO WHAT WILL?
Technology, is growing in more and more ways. There are several positives as well as negatives about it, but everyone definitely finds a means to vent and share there experiences via internet. My question is;
DOES IT HELP?
There are some issues that completely need venting places. I for one found a specific area. Sexual abuse. Personally, I was sexually abused as a child. I am still in the midths of healing. As time goes on, I learn there are more and more conflicts about it that seem to come up randomly at different moments in my life. Mutually, Nicole and I both agree there are only certain moments in ones life where a person feels completely ready to talk- and we mean talk, being connected to your words.
I for one have learned that child sexual abuse, is a specific issues that allows a child's brain to chemically create coping mechanisms that allow the hurt and effects to remain with you for long periods of time. A child's brain is not fully developed, so when it is affected by trauma it develops methods to "cope", so it can correctly continue growing. This helps most children to put issues such as sexual abuse, on the back burner. Which is something that I did. This is also an issue, like many others that children deal with and have trouble understanding. They are not always sure as to what it is, or how it affects them.
Personally, I distanced myself from many moments in my life I would have enjoyed because of this hurt. I had to carry it most of my life alone, or so I felt that I did. I did not choose to feel it, I also did not know how to fight it, talk about it or deal with it. For me, this was also something that was tough to discuss around my family. I had guilt, because it wasn't anything anyone could have controlled.
With all of this, there had to be other ways to deal with issues that are difficult to discuss. There had to be other ways to fight what society and the media not only influence but shuns. That is when an astonishing idea hit me, a remarkable innovative journey that I decided to invite Nicole on with me. Together we hope to inspire others just as we have inspired each other.
There are many ways that we can fight the bad, and no one has to or should have to feel they are alone. Together Nicole and I, have created one of several causes to come. We call it "Project Survive".
As this cause is still in the process of being built we hope that many people find a place to build friendships and areas where they feel a sense of connection. We were not only inspired each other in different ways, but we allowed our story to empower the cause we created...Project Survive.
With project survive we hope to inspire many, and fill a world that at times may feel hopeless with all the faith we have in our hearts to change the world. Although we are only at the very beginning building our cause, we know that every small bit helps- therefore, "one piece" of our cause will soon lead to greater PEACE...
With everyday life we are faced with several challenges without asking or looking or it- with that said I hope that you take mine and Nicole's story and use it as a guiding example for your own daily lives. Whenever you seek negative- instantly try to see the good... Barley passing accounting did "nothing" for me at the moment, but today is the leading reason for many of the positive mountains I climb, without that moment I would not be here today!
Help Nicole and I by Adding our page on facebook, it will be completely up and running sufficiently in do-time! https://www.facebook.com/nic.cie.31?fref=ts
For any info. or further questions you can reach: https://www.facebook.com/lotusflowerproject?ref=hl
For other pages for supporting info.,
Child Sexual Abuse:
https://www.facebook.com/ASAFEPLACETOTELL
A great book that has personally helped me, that has also been passed along to others;
"A Courage to Heal"-Written by, Ellen Bass and Laura Davis
Here us the books facebook page:
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Gears Heart Picture From; http://www.companiesandcauses.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/07/heart_cogs.jpg
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